TEMPERAMENT

                                                         

                                      TEMPERAMENT: 

What's a TEMPERAMENT? They are certain features and quality that make people behave in certain ways they do, we talk about the different temperaments, i.e sanguine, phlegmatic, choleric and  melancholy.
     For those of us who don't know what temperament they are, log in to Google, look it up, there are many temperament quiz there, answer the questions correctly, be true to your answer, no sentiments, you'll definitely get to know what temperament fits your personality, and what makes you do some certain things you do.

Now it's a cool thing to know your temperament and it's a more beautiful thing to know how to manage these temperament for a better relationship with people.
Let's take for instance you are a sanguine living with a phlegmatic, being peaceful and very tolerant, you may end up staying longer with him/her, he\she'll practically do everything for you just for peace to reign, cause they are more like the "i don't want trouble, allow him to have his way please, give him everything if that's what he wants", that's a phlegmatic for you.

 But it's the opposite for a sanguine to keep up this mutuality with a melancholy, who likes everything to be picture perfect, weather clear, very detailed, and always  strongly believes in the duality of existence, who wouldn't take every shit thrown at him/her, a sanguine living with a melancholy will always ' need a talking to', cause sanguine don't always believe in this duality, they don't like rules, they don't believe in 'it's either your're good or bad', they follow on with, 'whether  it's good or bad, black or white, we just on both sides', they don't agree  there are protocols guiding things, they do things when it's convenient, more like they like convenience, very loud and fun loving.
A sanguine that always comes back from work and throws his shoes, socks and shirts around would always have problems with a melancholy, who wants everything arranged and kept in order, most times it's hard for a sanguine to keep a close relationship with a melancholy, cause a melancholy would always get pissed with almost everything a sanguine does

And now my wonderful choleric, the goal oriented choleric, they are the 'if it has to be done, then get it done quickly', they don't believe in anything called complacency, 'i'm tired, or can we leave it tomorrow, when you have a choleric in your organization, thing are more likely to be productive, there is no mediocrity with a choleric, they are also the 'i can do all things, i'd say it's  a war for a choleric living with a phlegmatic or a sanguine, more especially a phlegmatic.
A phlegmatic is very very laid back, they are always okay with complacency, they don't like changes and can hardly adapt, they are most times pushed to do everything, sanguine are laid back but not like a phlegmatic.
Most times a choleric living with a melancholy can somehow deal, but to some extent, choleric generally are not compatible.

Know this, there is no bad temperament, and this is where i introduce the IQ and EQ thing.
IQ i.e Intelligence quotient, or cognitive intelligence: this is that something in you that makes you see a person and spot quickly, ' hey this one is a choleric or sanguine, it helps you assess what's happening around.

EQ i.e Emotional intelligence: emotional intelligence is the ability to recognize and understand emotions in yourself and others, and ability to use this awareness to manage behavior and relationship. Emotional intelligence is that thing in each of us that is a bit incorporeal, it affects how we manage behavior, navigate or control social complexities and make personal decisions that achieve positive result. It is more bordering on how to maintain healthy relationship with people. Emotional intelligence is a skill that can be learned.
It is emotional intelligence that'll help you manage people's temperament, it's understanding that we all have different or stable styles that define each of us, and make us take some certain choice, this is our personality 
Clear understanding of this would help us manage ourselves healthily; a choleric with clear understanding of a sanguine or phlegmatic emotions will help maintain a more healthy and long lasting relationship and vice versa. Have you considered why some certain folks, colleague or neighbor act the way they do?. Not to worry darling!!, those styles and things they do are the condiments that make up who they are, that is their personality.

Have an awareness of people around you , learn how to manage your emotions and their's, cause this is the only way we can create compatibility and maintain a healthy relationship.